WEEK5: The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26 “A friendship that like love is warm; A love like friendship, steady.” Thomas Moore
Welcome Back!!!! I hope that you guys have been enjoying all of the other posts, also liking and commenting on them. This week’s topic is all about Friendships. Who can remember a time when you brought over a “Friend” and your mother or grandmother would say “I don’t like her, that isn’t your friend.” I know can remember and I would just look at them and say “yes she is, she’s really cool.” The funny thing is every time they said that they were right. Lol!! There are a lot of people who come into your life pretending to be your friend. Be careful of how many friends you have and on the low they are hating on you and your every move. The way you can tell the sign of a good friend is by looking at the actions they take big and small that show they care. My mother, grandmother and family members use to always say “choose your friends wisely.” Growing up I honestly thought, every friend that I called my friend was my friend. When I got older I learned that those friendships would later end due to many different reasons. Such as boys, different paths, personalities, and many other things. Also, in order to obtain good friendships, you have to also be a good friend to others. What you put out into the atmosphere is what you will receive. I told y’all I listen to Bishop T.D Jakes a lot and he tells us what kind of friends will come into our lives, I’m going to share with you.
Bishop Jakes says that you will come in contact with 3 types of friends: Confidants, Constituents and lastly Comrades.
1.Confidants- These are the friends who actually genuinely care deeply about you. They are with you when you are high, dry, right and wrong. They are riding with you until the wheels fall off literally. In life you’ll notice that you will have only a few people like that in your circle. And when he says few he means 2 or 3. These people are personally connected to you and everything you are for. In my mind, I see this person as my best friend she knows when I am down, up and she supports my every move regardless of what she may think or feel about it.
2.Constituents- These are people who are not for you, but they are for the purpose you are for. They pretend to care because you guys may have the same vision, passion, and purpose for something. Make NO mistake about these people because they will leave you the moment greater opportunities come around. They are looking to better themselves and if they have to knock you back 3 steps to do that trust and believe me they will. They were never really for you y’all just had the same goal in mind at the time.
3.Comrades: These people are not for you nor are they for what you are for. They are only around you when you are both against the same issue. They will team up with knowing they don’t like you as in individual just to defeat the greater enemy. You will be slightly confused by their associations because they only engage with people until you have met their goal. You can say they were in your life for a purpose, but…
In the end Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect people who reciprocate kindness and all those other positive traits as well. Proceed with caution and move slowly into new friendships until you know you have common values and perspectives. Friendships are like relationships and who wants to be in a toxic friendship with someone they call a friend. Don’t get me wrong because any 2 or 3 people can share the same goals, aspirations, and values, but what matters the most is how authentic they are. Watch the company you keep, you’ll be surprised by a number of people who come in your life claiming to be your friend, but they talking about you behind your back, giving away your ideas, telling your personal business then smiling in your face. It amazes me every day when I witness people like that. I often wonder why and what do they do it for? I’ll probably never understand but what I can do is encourage other to put the right people in their corner. Also, remember the places you will go in life EVERYBODY CAN’T GO!!! Everyone gets scared when they have to start doing things alone its nothing wrong with being alone but I’d rather be alone on my train ride than to have someone whos been lying, and deceiving me throughout my entire journey. Remember everybody isn’t your FRIEND and stop using the word so loosely.
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