Week6: The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
Welcome Back!! This week post is all about forgiveness, which most people find really hard to do. Why is it so hard for us to forgive? At what point are you just unable to forgive someone? You have to have a lot of strength in order to forgive someone who has done you wrong. Also when you think of forgiveness it’s not always forgiving someone, but it could be a situation, and even forgiving yourself. We put ourselves in bad, scary and dangerous situations. We have to forgive ourselves because of what we allow as individuals. I’m telling you it’s time that you forgive yourself and those people because it will start to brighten your life. Why should you have to be trapped in misery due to someone else wrong doing? I challenge you to start forgiving your mother, father, sister, brother, friends, anyone who has done you wrong and then forgive yourself. Understand it’s not going to be easy, it will take time, strength and effort.
So let me tell yall a story, in 2009 my mother and father choose to just up and move us from Georgia to New Jersey. I mean when I say the south was all I knew it was all I knew. I mean I didn’t know why we were moving I just knew one day I was in Macon and the next I was in Jersey literally. I was angry that I had to leave my family, friends and my school behind I had made so many connections that I just wasn’t ready to give up on yet. That slight situation made me angry along with some other things but I think this is where it started. I can remember being that person who woke up and went to sleep angry. As I kept getting older I couldn’t shake the anger I was lashing out on any and everybody. It’s funny now because I have super calm sisters and I would get mad at them for not being mad along with me lol. I can honestly say it was 3 things that caused my anger back then and as a young girl, I didn’t know how or when was the best time for me to express it. The first thing that made me angry was moving too jersey, then it was the fact that my father walked out on us as a family, then lastly I had gotten sick. I just thought since I was being handed all the bad in life I’ll act a fool on others. I would say things that I knew would hurt others and didn’t care. Only realizing I was hurting myself. I first forgave myself after my second surgery. I came out of surgery and I was laying on the bed like girl what you mad for in my mad voice lol. I didn’t even have an answer as to why I was mad. I made a promise to forgive cancer and I just began to fight. I went hard and I was strong about it. I stop faulting people for being sick I accepted it for what it was. Today I can say I’m a stronger person from it. When I got sick I gained this sense of forgiveness once I forgave myself. I thought about all that could go wrong from that point and decided to add some right to it and that was forgiving people so I wouldn’t always have it on my mind. I forgave my father for all that he had done because what would I be gaining by not forgiving him. Then I realized my father and my mother wasn’t getting along and it had just became a toxic situation that my sisters and I didn’t need and my parents didn’t need either. Then lastly I forgave both of my parents and thanked them for moving me out of my comfort zone which was Georgia. I now understand that they moved us for the better, I can say today I have seen so much, learned so much and been so many different places that I know I would have never seen in that small town in Georgia. I know now that they were bettering us in a way and allowing us the opportunity to see more in our younger lives. I haven’t forgotten about those situations I have just stored them away in my memory box. If god could forgive me 70×7 why couldn’t I forgive myself, others and those situations.
Forgiveness is such a big idea, it is something to think about because it is hard to forgive someone then forget about it. When someone or something has done you wrong the best payback is to forgive the person or situation. Some of you may be reading like how or where do I start to forgive. Forgiveness just means that you’ve made peace with the pain, and you are ready to let it go. Forgiveness is not something we do for others it’s something we do for yourself. Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of staying trapped in a jail cell of bitterness, serving time for someone else’s crime. Once you forgive I’m telling you your emery won’t know what to do. They will be annoyed that you choose to better yourself and forgive them. Remember when you forgive someone you set yourself free. You feel like a weight has just been lifted off of you. who doesn’t want to be free of guilt and pain break those chains!
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