Sorry for the wait but welcome back all of my ArtofA followers!!!! This week topic is about knowing which battles to fight. Should I fight this Fight… I believe in a higher power which is God and I never want to inflict my beliefs on to other people but I believe that God can and will fight all my battles. Have you ever felt that you were fighting an everlasting battle?  It’s like tug a war it’s like you pulling and pulling but you just can’t get the best of that battle. You find yourself falling and losing hope because it just seems like one of those situations where you just can’t win. I️ know we all want to win. It’s time we make ourselves aware that we can’t win every battle, that some are just too big for us and we gotta let go and move on. It’s okay to move on and release yourself from playing tug a war because you’re in a war with self when you are fighting some of those a battles. So this post is just to encourage you and let you know that the battle is not yours. Start asking yourself “Should I fight this FIGHT?”

“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” — C. JoyBell C. Know that life is full of heartbreak, pain, and chaos but you gotta pick and choose which one of those battles you’re going to fight. Be strong in those battles, be faithful and be hopeful that things will work in your favor. In those battles go in knowing that you will come out a winner no matter how big it may be. Also, don’t let the magnitude of the battle discourage you from the fight. I know we all enter that phase of life where all things are just going wrong and if it’s not one thing it’s another, but if you go in with the mindset of a winter you’ll come out on top as a winner. All of those battles aren’t worth your energy because they will eventually break your spirit and you as a person. When you are deciding on fighting a battle check  or consider these three things:

  1. Is this battle Important for me to fight? Some battles are easier to fight rather than others. Evaluate the meaning of the battle. For example, a battle you shouldn’t fight is the pettiness of other people. Or to feed into negative energy with toxic people. Other word let your haters be and I know its easier said than done but you can do it and you will. You should not dwell on toxic people. Let those people go and engage with people on the same page as you. Surround yourself with people who are faithful, positive and most of all encouraging and empowering you to be better. Fighting battles like that only put you on the same level as the person your fighting with. You bigger, better, smarter and wiser so act like it. So if the battle isn’t important then don’t fight it.
  2. What are the benefits of fighting this battle? This just means once you’ve touched the battle what did you learn from it. How did you grow/ mature from that battle? You don’t want to waste your time because you’ll eventually find the time you spend doesn’t outweigh the benefit. You want to be sure you gain closure from your battles because if not they will turn in to revolving problems that show up in different forms of your life. So what will you benefit from the battle your about to put yourself through?
  3. Decide if you should fight it or let it go. Once you have evaluated the battle, weigh the benefits then you decide if you’re going to put the time and energy to fight it. The battle is with your conflict and you should look at it as a Win-Win situation. It’s like why would you want to see the other side win? In all actuality, you do want a Win-Win because that’s how you will fully get over whatever the issue is.

In the end, we have to pick and choose our battles wisely. Everything doesn’t require your attention and sometimes you just have to let go and move on to something different. Don’t all yourself to give so much energy that you begin to go left without. Eventually, you’ll know which battles you should fight and the one you shouldn’t fight. Be sure that the fight is worth it.

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