Quote of the week: If you want to fly in the sky, you need to leave the earth. If you want to move forward, you need to let go the past that drags you down. -Amit Ray

  Welcome Back All of My ART OF A (AOA) FOLLOWERS!!!!! As you guys read this post remember that sometimes holding on is even worse than letting go. This post is about letting go of past hurt. If you able to bring up your past and still feel hurt or hell from it then you haven’t let it go. You haven’t forgiven the person who hurt you nor have you forgiven yourself for allowing that person to hurt you. Hurt can come from anybody such as a friend, your mom, Dad, Aunt, cousin, etc. I know it’s easy to say but how can you ever be happy if you don’t let that hurt go. The hurt you put yourself through doesn’t benefit you, it doesn’t make you happy, it doesn’t pay bills and it sure doesn’t wake you up to see a new day! If you are holding on to past experiences of what you didn’t do, past hurt, past revenge, past relationships etc. please let it go so you can allow yourself to blossom. In a sense, I think of hurt like a cancerous disease. I mean It starts in one place then It just spreads like a wildfire. It goes like this first you get hurt, then you try to heal yourself rather than letting time heal the issue itself, then it goes away for some time but will eventually resurface in another area of your life. Doesn’t it sound like cancer? LOL… I would know because I’ve had it. But on a serious note why allow yourself to keep feeling that pain when you have the power to treat your disease. When you don’t let it go and seek the proper help what you thought you got over will grow into another relationship or situation.

First, you should acknowledge the hurt that you feel. Allow yourself to feel the pain because can’t no one take away your experience based on the events that happen in your life. When you express your pain write it out so that you can see it and realize what you are really hurt about. Then take full responsibility for the part you played in getting hurt. While you may think you didn’t have the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a part that you were responsible for. Ask yourself What could you have done differently? What could you have said differently? How much has it affected your life? Will you let your pain become your identity? Really reflect on these questions and really see your part in your own hurt. Then you must stop blaming others. I’m sure we all love playing the victim at times. It’s like being on the winning team, you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse “your feelings matter” with “your feelings should override everyone else, and nothing else matters.”

When you allow yourself to stay hurt you’ve given power to the person who hurt you. You don’t want to allow them to have that power that’s why it’s crucial that you follow all the steps to letting go. You need to take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and not put such power into another person’s hands. Why would you let the person who hurt you in the past have such power over your life? It’s tricky when it comes to this power thing because you might feel like that person doesn’t have any power over your life. Guess what when someone hurt you and you don’t get over it, you speak of them in a negative way, you tell your experience with malice, or you still even speak on seeking revenge then that person has more power over you and your mindset more than you may even understand. Lastly, you must focus on the present, forgive yourself and the person then decided to move on. It’s possible you can do it and with time you will do it. Forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness and that’s what we sometimes tend to think and that’s not the case. Instead, it’s understanding. You did something that hurt me. But I want to move forward and welcome peace back in my life. I can’t do that fully until I let this hurt go. Forgiveness is a way of tangibly letting something go. It’s also a way of empathizing with the other person and trying to see things from their point of view. So, in the end, work on letting all hurt go. Don’t keep running with it because it will only weight you down. While most of us want to win the race, we got to wanna beat this hurt as well.

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