Week19: “Love is blind, and a deaf-mute too.” – Patrick Rothfuss                                 Welcome Back ArtofA followers. As some of you may know August was my off month and I was collecting my thoughts and ideas so I can put out some new and better content. I’ll be back posting every week so let’s get to it.

This week topic is titled “How Blind Is Love.” Ummmm tricky right. Y’all heard Eve when she said, ” Love is blind and it will take over your mind, what you think is love is truly not you need to elevate and find.” It’s one of those deep topics that no one really speaks on because you might still wonder How Blind is Love? How many of us have been in a relationship and was loving Blind? Well, my definition of loving Blind is loving someone so much that no matter how wrong they do you; you choose to stick around because you’re afraid of change and recommitment with another person. You have gotten used to the chaos can’t remember what it’s like to be treated like you’re worth something. You put them first in everything and you are sort of losing yourself, you forget yourself worth and forget about loving yourself because you’re super focused on your partner. You can love Blind in friendships, relationships, situation-ships, with family etc. So ask yourself “How Blind Is Love!?”

I believe that if you really love someone you will go to great lengths to keep the relationship going and keep the love flowing but when you finally realize that you’re more so hurting yourself rather than the person you began to act different and you might even begin to move differently. I believe that we stay in a relationship that we know we’ve let go too far. Meaning the things that he or she does to you we would never allow from the previous person or the next person. You put up with every flaw, lie, and disrespectful behavior. When you are at this point you have lost yourself, you are no longer the person living with boundaries and expectations of another person entering your space. You are now loving Blind and you can no longer see the wrong of that person and If you do see it you’re accepting it. Loving Blind is dangerous because you know your self-worth, you know what you deserve and you know right from wrong but you choose to put up with the new normal in life. I know it’s hard but why endure the struggle when you don’t have too. Why put up with judgment from people who supposed to love you when you don’t have too. Why put up with disrespect when you don’t have too. Why sit around and feel less of yourself when you simply don’t have too.

I’m here to encourage you that you can leave and change your atmosphere. You can leave that toxic relationship with that significant person and start over. Don’t rush because there are always new friends looking for a new friend, a guy looking for a wife or significant other it won’t be the end of the world. I’ve learned from experience that’s it’s going to be hard. Also that I have to let life take its course and what will be; will be.  It will take time and all days after won’t be pretty but the fact that you were able to choose your own happiness and walk away says a lot.  Once you gain that courage and tell yourself no more things will start to happen in your life that wasn’t before. You will feel better, love better, think clearer and be aware of the next friendship and relationship you get yourself in. ” If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end, low vibrational, blind loving relationship or friendship understand you WON!!”

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